The thing I don’t get about my husband

I love my husband. No, wait….I adore my husband. I have reason to. He is THE man.

I have said that in the lottery of men, I have won the jackpot. My girlfriends have called my husband the The Holy Grail of men. He’s a nice guy, he treats me like a queen. Heck, he’ll even refer to me as his queen on occasion. He loves me just the way I am. He gets me. He has no addictions or vices. He’s taken on my kids as his own and if you know my story, you know this is not your typical step-dad situation here. I have an adopted, special needs child, which means life can be chaos. The man accepts it all.

We love each other. We actually make people sick. We’ve been told that. Not in a mean way. But, in a nice way. We’ve been told by more than one of our friends that we are the epitome of what a relationship should be. We are “in love”, we are best friends and we totally and completely get each other.


There is this one, itty, bitty thing that I really don’t get about my husband and it bothers me. A LOT.

My husband has naked women tattooed on him.

I don’t know how this happened or why he decided this should happen. It was before we met and like the real, fleshy women who came before my time, I really don’t feel like it’s something I want to know a whole lot about. However, now that I’ve compared it to real, fleshy women – I guess I wouldn’t understand if he was holding on to pictures of old, naked girlfriends either. Back to what I was saying….He has three of them. They are like pin-up girls. I guess his first tattoo was the Betty Page with devil horns on his right forearm. The second would’ve been the Roxie, on his left upper arm and then the last, which is a ah-MAZE balls, artistically speaking, but the worst from a feminist perspective, is this bondage chic on his lower right leg.

They normally don’t bother me in our day to day activities, and he is pretty good about trying to wear long sleeves and pants, but obviously you can’t do this year round or when you’re playing sports. So they’re times when I look down and think, “Geesh, honey – could you tuck your pornography away?” Like…when we’re hanging out with other people’s kids and I notice the kids noticing,  when he’s coaching one of the kids sports, when we’re swimming at our gym or in my Grandma’s swimming pool with the whole family, counseling sessions with Pickle, when we are at a parent/teacher conferences, at church. I mean, it does get a little awkward.

Have you ever met a guy with tattoos like this? I have. A couple times over. They’re awful. I mean like the most despicable, degrading towards women, pieces of crap, scumbags EVER. And my husband is not even remotely close to that. In fact, he’s the furthest thing from that. I don’t want people to EVER assume anything like that about him. He’s the most respectful man I’ve ever been with. He’s huge on respect and I want everyone to know that and to see that and to appeciate that.

Usually when people get tattoos they symbolize something for them, they mean something to them…you know,  say something about who they are?

What the hell does this mean?

What on Earth possessed this decision? Not once – but three times???

I just don’t get it.

This will always be the thing I don’t get about my husband and I wish it didn’t bother me, but it does.

7 thoughts on “The thing I don’t get about my husband

  1. You’ve never asked him about them? Maybe he can get come clothes tattooed on them and not like pants and a long shirt but like a bra or hell even pasties on their nipples.. My sister has a friend whose husband has nothing but naked girls everywhere on his body, in his garage etc and he’s a disgusting pig..Ask him about it and see if he’d mind covering them up a bit.

  2. @MomGoneMadd – I have told him that they bothered me and why and he understands and has told me that he is willing to have them covered up, a little.I’ve actually had more people ask me questions about them, then I have probably ever asked him. Like, why does he have those? It’s not that he has tattoos – it’s just what they are of. And maybe it would be better if we could put some clothing on them. Honestly, I would just like to see him get something that represented more of who he is. And look at the example you just provided of your sister’s friend – that’s what I mean. I haven’t even met him and I can smell him in my head. (snort)Hell – I might even feel better about it if he could tell me that represented something to him and why and I could understand it. Is it too much to ask that Im the only woman in his life with everything else he’s sacraficed, Shann?

  3. Hi Stephanie, I can see where that could be a tough issue for you. I know some gals put up with a variety of things from their husbands–adult magazines, some porno, and others unusual requests.Yours is kind of passive in away. I can see you being uncomfortable with them when they can be seen by others. I guess if that is his one fault, it may be better to swallow hard and just accept it. I am sorry you have this fly in the ointment. Personally, I suggest trying to ignore it.blessingsfrank

  4. Hi, new to your page and I read you entry. I am going to be honest, that would bother the heck out of me. Not out of jealousy since they are pin up girls but it would make me wonder why, out of all the things you could get on your body, would you get naked women and esp. one in bondage. Idk, it’s prob. nothing,  just bad decision making and the only thing he can do now is either get them removed or you’ll have to leave it alone and accept it. I can’t imagine what the people at church think when they see that or when parents know their kids see it… It prob. goes against everything your husband represents… Good luck.

  5. @ventimochamom – Thanks for stopping by. I could really care less what people think. I adore my husband. HE IS A GREAT GUY. But because I know his heart and know that they could be perceived by others as something, as you mentioned, that goes completely against what my husband represents….its bizarre to have chosen to them to have permanently branded on your skin. Which is why it’s the one thing I don’t get about my husband.

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