1. IT IS YOUR RIGHT TO DO ANYTHING AS LONG AS YOU DO NOT PURPOSELY HURT SOMEONE ELSE AND YOU ARE WILLING TO ACCEPT THE CONSEQUENCES.
This ancient axiom is considered by many to be the one commandment. You were born free, you are free, and only fear or value judgments will keep you from excercising this right.
2. IT IS YOUR RIGHT TO MAINTAIN YOUR SELF RESPECT BY ANSWERING HONESTLY EVEN IF IT DOES HURT SOMEONE ELSE, AS LONG AS YOU ARE BEING ASSERTIVE AS OPPOSED TO AGGRESSIVE.
The key words are self-respect. A phoney excuse or an unfelt apology will cause you to lose your self respect and that is never acceptable.
3. IT IS YOUR RIGHT TO BE WHAT YOU ARE WITHOUT CHANGING YOUR IDEAS OR BEHAVIOR TO SATISFY SOMEONE ELSE.
We are all free human beings and should be respected for what we are, not for what someone else wants us to be. Any forced change will not last or will result in new eruptions of unsatisfactory behavior.
4. IT IS YOUR RIGHT TO STRIVE FOR SELF ACTUALIZATION
You have the right to become all that you are capable of being in all areas of your life
5. IT IS YOUR RIGHT TO USE YOUR OWN JUDGEMENT AS TO THE NEED PRIORITIES OF YOURSELF AND OTHERS IF YOU DECIDE TO ACCEPT ANY RESPONSIBLITY FOR ANOTHER’S PROBLEM
No one else can relate to your position and know what is best for you or what you should do. It is your value judgement as to what you will do with your time and in what order you choose to accomplish your tasks.
6. IT IS YOUR RIGHT NOT TO BE SUBJECTED TO NEGATIVITY
Negativity programs you in the wrong way and thus is very detrimental to you. The long term effects of negative programming amount to a more negative life for you. People can only help themselves when they are ready. Many are never ready. They thrive on the attention they get because of their problems. If that is their game then let them play it by themselves.
7. IT IS YOUR RIGHT TO OFFER NO EXCUSES OR JUSTIFICATIONS FOR YOUR DECISIONS OR BEHAVIOR
In interacting with people who are not close to you personally, explanations and excuses weaken your statements and position. We all find ourselves in positions in which others imply that we owe them an explanation. Most of us are so well trained that we react automatically and comply to their wishes without thinking. Also, all too often we explain ourselves even when no one has asked “why?”
8. IT IS YOUR RIGHT NOT TO CARE.
There are so many “should’s” that if “you did” you’d have no time left for anything else. Don’t “should” on yourself. You and you alone, decide what to care about.
9. IT IS YOUR RIGHT TO BE ILLOGICAL
Logic usually works well in science, but it is never very predictable in human relationships and coping with people’s desires, motivations, and feelings. It is implied that logic indicates superior judgements, but between two people, more often than not, it is simply used as a manipulative ploy.
10. IT IS YOUR RIGHT TO CHANGE YOUR MIND
Changing your mind is healthy and normal, but other people may resist by challenging your right to do so. They will want explanations and the admission that your first choice was a mistake. “How can you change your mind after you committed yourself? You’re irresponsible and will probably make a faulty decision next time.” You must be aware of their limited viewpoint and let their communications flow past you, without affecting you.
From: Self Mastery; by: Dick Sutphen