I am now being accused of using the kids for leverage. Which is rich, all things considered…
El Chupa Douchebag calls maybe every other night to tell the kids good night before they go to bed, which is fine by me. But, I have asked him on more than several occasions to call around 7:45 because I put the kids to bed at 8pm. He doesn’t listen, he keeps calling between 8:30 and 9:00, sometimes as late as 10, because he says that’s about when they go to bed at his house. I had started waited for him to call, but the kids just end up grumpy and unproductive which just isn’t fair to them. I asked him again to call before 8 and explained this. Sunday night, it just happened the kids were exhausted, Diva fell asleep at 7:30 on the couch and Jedi and Pickle fell asleep by 8. During our argument yesterday he made some sarcastic comment about trying to call them and tell them good-night, as if to imply I wasn’t answering because we had been arguing Sunday night. I reminded him again that I put the kids to bed at 8pm and yes, they were asleep. Last night after our argument… he calls at 8:50, and of course we were all in bed, and the kids were asleep, so I didn’t answer. I don’t want to keep these arguments going and thats all that ever seems to happen. He kept calling the house phone and my cell phone in rotation. Then, finally, he leaves a message that says,
“I am trying to call and tell my kids good night. I would appreciate it if you wouldn’t use them as leverage. You always said you wouldn’t and I never thought you would, but you’ve done it several times now. Anyways, I’d like to tell the kids goodnight”
What the hell? Do you know how offensive that is to me? I’m using them as leverage, but yet I volunteer to drive them 40 mins away for his visitations? I inform him about every doctor’s appointment and school meeting weeks in advance so he can attend and I’m using them as leverage? When? Why? Because I’m not catering to him?
This is crap.
I’ve told him on numerous occasions to call at 7:45, he doesn’t. When they have still been awake, I have picked up, taken them the phone, handing it to each of them in bed, waiting for them to be done and then taking it to the next room, despite him not respecting my wishes and their schedule. I just can’t win with him.
It’s like some kind of self-fulfilling prophecy or something. It’s like he purposely ignores things so that he can play a victim and have an excuse for the way he acts.