If you don’t have anything nice to say……….listen.

I’m learning.

Slowly but surely, I am learning when to keep my mouth shut. I’ve finally learned who I can talk to openly and honestly and who I have to walk on egg shells around. I’ve learned who will take what I say as genuine and who will take what I say and make it into whatever they want it to mean. I’ve learned who actually gives a shit and who it’s a waste of time to share my feelings with and how not to be bitter about it. Take what I have, and be satisfied. Maybe it’s also that I’ve learned to value my own opinion. I’ve learned to respect my own thoughts and my own decisions without being so self-doubting about it. I know not everybody is going to agree with me all the time or take what I say as some golden epiphany, but I’ve arrived at those opinions and thoughts because of my experiences. The experiences that have made me. So there’s that whole to thine own self be true thing. Cause when you are true to yourself and your ideas and your morals, but without passing judgement on those who have varying opinions and are able to keep an open ear and mind…that’s being the best person you can be because you build that on your own experiences. That’s how I evolve.

I realize at this point that this is probably making no sense to anyone but me so I’ll just let out what lead to this. It may not be all sunshine and roses, but it isn’t mean either. It’s just …..how I feel.

I sometimes read a girl’s site whom I used to be EXTREMELY close with and when she writes things like. ‘I just expect of others what I give’  or things like it is amazing to her that a girl from this area is ‘actually concerned about my  plight‘ – it’s like a slap in the face to me because this is someone who I cared deeply about. Still do. Someone I would’ve done anything for and did when she asked. Someone I thought would be there  as my friend when I was old and gray. But instead she says  I’m too negative for her and that I’ve made up my illnesses for attention. That was what I got in return for being a friend. Now it is what it is between her and I and it is my humble opinion that  she has indeed gotten what she has given others. When she loves others, they return the favor. When she acts nonchalant about the relationship and takes it for granted, they return the sentiment. And when she drops off the face of the Earth and moves on with her life, they follow suit. And while I sometimes want to tell her how I feel, I’ve pretty much decided that she doesn’t care. So I shut my trap BUT I’ve learned a lesson. All is not a loss.

After all, I guess she’s entitled to her opinion too, even if it’s a hard one to understand.

  Interesting fact of the day

If you hook Jell-O up to an EEG, it registers movements almost identical to a human adult’s brain waves.


14 thoughts on “If you don’t have anything nice to say……….listen.

  1. The golden rule….If you don’t have anything nice to say, say nothing at all.  I can usually abide by this rule in most cases.  Every once in a while I slip and say something I probably shouldn’t have.  I think it’s great that we all have different opinions.  Imagine how boring it would be if we all had the same thoughts on everything…..ZZZZZZZZZZZ.  That would be a big snooze! 

  2. I think you should be allowed to say whatever you want and if people don’t like it, they are not forced to read it.
    I also think that you should be able to tell friends anything and not have them get mad at you. If you are being honest, then the friendship should be strong enough to handle the truth. That is just the sharky way though 😀
    Have a great day 😛

  3. That thing about the Jello… is that true? C’mon now. Really. Be serious. I’m looking that up. Who you trying to fool? Really? Jello? C’mon now.

  4. That is interesting about the jello.  Hmmm.  It really does?  Weird.  I have been outspoken my whole life.  Some people like it and some don’t.  Maybe that is why I don’t have many friends.  (Scratches head and looks quizical).  I figure if they don’t like me for who I am then oh well.  I think that if friends get mad at what I say then maybe they aren’t true friends after all.  Have a good one.

  5. Alright I looked it up on “da internet” & and I couldn’t find anything that said otherwise or to the disprove that the Jello thing is not true. Therefore – Don’t eat Jello! It’s alive!! Jello is peoples too!

  6. People are idiots…I think you’re great. We can still be friends when we are old and gray 😀
    Have a great day 😛

  7. wow i hate when that stuff happens on here…..thank you though for your help and i am friends with people for life unless of course they do something to me….lol. sharky is awesome! so follow his advice! have a great day!

  8. Hi I just wanted to thank you for leaving a comment for the girls on my site. I really think that you are a GREAT person, caring about others. And as far as what you venting about I say listen to your heart and be you!!! You are free to say and feel what you want.
    You are a great person stay that way!!!

  9. first…. i don’t think i will ever be able to look at jello the same again!
    now you and i have had an interesting relationship with each other. you met me through my ex and you and i have ALWAYS told each other how it is, knowing that the other will see learn from each other’s insight instead of being offended by what is said. you see… THAT is real frienship.
    if you walk up to a true friend and you say..
    “hey, you know what.. i don’t agree with what you said and here’s why” that friend doesn’t think you are trying to attack them or put them down. they know that you are sincere and that you are a good enough friend that you don’t need to sugar coat the truth. its the ppl that are self concious or that don’t truly value you as a friend that get upset. a real friend knows they can say what’s on their mind and that friend will still be their friend afterwards.
    you know in your heart that whoever this person is that you are talking about… isn’t a deep down true friend. instead they are just an annoyance. and you are right… its is not your loss. its theirs!

  10. the fact was too cool!!! i was always taught and told if you cant say anything good dont say anything at all,but sometimes my tongue flies before thinking!!! lol..
    anyways- i hope your having a good night!!!!

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